As a woman, daughter, mum, wife, teacher, coach, and fellow human being, I have experienced the pain of believing I was NOT being heard. So, through this, I have shut myself down from fully showing up. Instead, I took on such roles as ….

…. “People Pleasing”, “Rescuer”, “Victim”, “Controller”, and more.

The other option I took was to explode when the volcano inside me all became too much to hold in any longer. I buried myself in competitive tennis 7 days a week… where I could hammer the ball endlessly and no-one knew my motive. Not even me!!!

I was secretly verbally abusive to my dad… another way my pain and confusion was released.

University days were filled with alcohol to numb feelings. And to fit in.

Those roles, I now see, enabled me to survive… despite never really feeling like I belonged. I thought I was helping myself to feel safe, wanted, valued, to hide the confusion and hurt of my relationship with my dad and my sister, and much more!!

Why, if I was giving my absolute everything, was I attracting so much disconnection with others? Why did my marriage end when I gave so much? Why was I so exhausted? Why did I feel so lonely and misunderstood?

The transformation came through many modalities.

I came to see I was seeing the world from a place of me thinking I had to be “in control to be heard”. Oh dear … this was fear based. So, I was constantly choosing to leave myself. So, how could I disconnect from myself and think I would connect with others?!!!

Just not possible!

Nature has also been a huge part of my journey in releasing control, rebuilding trust and simply the art of listening.

The impact of this journey so far, finally crystalized my “raison de entre” for providing a non-judgemental, freedom-based environment to bring healing through listening to individuals, families and schools. Hence, the birth of BeyondtheBranches and Different Track.

The art of connecting!