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We all know where “home” is (our pure heart truth), yet layers upon layers cover it up.
Here lies an example of how:-
The phone in back corner of classroom rings. (Names have been changed for this reflection from last week).
Please send student Poppy to office for her medications – is the request.
As the teacher, I pass on the request to Poppy … and continue teaching 28 students in this Yr1 class.
Next thing there is an adult in the room pushing for Poppy to follow the instruction of medication needs to be taken. She clearly says “No”.
She was pressured by 2 adults to do as she was told.
She did this time – with a rage and resentment energy.
The next day, same phone call… and again Poppy chose to stay in her seat.
This time, I knelt beside this 7yo girl and asked what her good reason was for not moving.
“I hate the tablets. They taste awful and make me feel sick.”
What is your understanding of their purpose? I ask.
“I get angry. I hurt people near me when I feel angry. These are supposed to keep me calm. But I hate them.”
My heart sank.
This girl – and every human – knows what is best for them. One of the needs we have is TO BE HEARD.
When this NEED is not met ….
Rage!
This internal rage will NOT go away with medications.
It is simply numbed and buried further.
What if ….
The rage was HEARD, EXPRESSED and RELEASED and treated with the compassion and respect it is needing?
What if …
Screaming with trees, then earthing in the dirt with our hands, teaches us to HEAR and HONOUR what is alive in the NOW.
Simply put …
Tools to stand in all the colour of this human experience… because there is nothing wrong with us!
As kids, we are raised under the idea that lying is wrong.
Yet, every human being does it.
If it’s part of being human, then what’s it’s story?
What if we took a dive into what the “good reason” is behind lying?
What might we find?
As I stand today … with my passion for dropping the judgement on behaviour and the punishing or rewarding constructs that supposedly promote “good” behaviour – truth, in this case … I have come to see lying as a gift!
Yes, that’s right a GIFT!
What if … we feel unsafe to be seen, heard and valued for what is alive in us in any given moment, that we hide that part of us from the world, through telling a lie?
What if … we have been honest at some point and been punished for our honesty, that we turn to lying as an option for our own protection?
What if … we have tried to openly share with others and they have not listened, so we do not trust them to hear our vulnerable selves, so we tell them what we think they want to hear? We lie.
What if … we feel so embarrassed by parts of ourselves, that we feel like to be accepted we need to hide those parts from the world?
What if … we have watched others get punished for saying their truth, so keeping the peace on the outside becomes our go to, despite our inside being in conflict and turmoil!!
Today, I was asked “Why would you trust me?”.
So, what does trust look like?
This is what came in my response….
We hear ourselves … when we are in each other’s company – in person or written.
We hear each other. Completely. To the best of our ability and that may mean owning when we are not hearing!
Through this, safety is present.
I accept all of me .. even the expressive self .. in your company.
I feel safe to totally show up with you.
I see, hear and feel an acceptance of all that I am.
This is the foundation of trust.
